Making It Work In Marriage

Making It Work In Marriage

Marriage works by loving the right person enough
to make the right choices as you do so.

©Lee Wise 

Reflecting...

• Obviously, should we have the privilege of being married as a parent, one of the greatest gifts we can give our children is loving our husband or wife. 
• I see "loving enough" to include loving, caring and relating during the many and varied days of our married lives -- including, of course, the many and varied ups and downs!  
• In my way of thinking, value based choices are critical for the success of any marital relationship: good, quality values of course!  No, this is not "new."  It is simply important.  
• Also, related to this topic, from what I have seen in my life "the grass is greener" syndrome destroys more -- way more -- than it "satisfies."  This has to do with the "loving the right person" in the quote above.  In other words, faithfulness is crucial.  

Reflecting More...

• Simply put: are my values in order? 
• Am I in any danger of sacrificing long term happiness for momentary pleasure?   
• If I were to list my top 3 (or 5, 10?) values that have proven to those that have helped in relating to my spouse in a journal, what would I list?  

That's It!

May you and those you love enjoy a wonderful week, 

Lee 

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Let's Help Give Clean Water To People

"Lets Help Give Clean
Water To People"

As Dads, We Can Have An Impact

The premise for this post is simple as it concerns the subject of being a good father, and that is...

Modeling counts.


And, I have something today that I feel can...

• Provide a good model for those we love and lead as fathers (and grandfathers of course!  In my case, grandfather has been replaced by "Pap"!)
• Provide a way to be a positive influence in the world.  

Very recently, my wife and I learned about charity:water and decided to create a time sensitive campaign (87 days left as of this posting date) to help raise water in developing nations.  The name of our campaign is 5 Bucks For 10,000.

5 Bucks For 10,000

Let's talk about water for a moment.  (Facts I learned from charity:water).

• Right now, almost a billion people on the planet don’t have access to clean, safe drinking water. That’s one in eight of us.
• The UN predicts that one tenth of the global disease burden can be prevented simply by improving water supply and sanitation.
• Unsafe water and lack of basic sanitation cause 80% of diseases and kill more people every year than all forms of violence, including war.

How Just 5 Bucks Can Help

When we learned about the possibility of developing our own campaign to provide drinking what for the developing nations, we decided to create a campaign that was simple, doable and, therefore, helpful to many.

Now stop and reflect on these thoughts:

• One $5.00 Dollar gift = doable.
• 2,000 people giving one $5.00 gift = doable.
• The result: $10,000! (And that's not bad for being doable don't you think?).

Responding. Reflecting. Deciding.

• Would you consider giving Just 5 Bucks to something like this?  No guilt trips here: none in the least.  If you can and heart says "move on it," fine.  If not, that's fine as well.  All of us give as we feel we can and according to the leading of our hearts.
• Another possibility would to sharing the campaign with others: know of anyone you could share it with through an email list, Twitter or Facebook?
• Regarding the subject of giving back or leaving a legacy, did any ideas come to your mind about how you might either "give back" or complement your desire to leave a positive legacy in a positive way?
• This brings up the subject of values.  If you happen to be in business of some sort, what advice would you give to someone about identifying and living by their most cherished values while in the process of being involved in something like attraction marketing for instance?

All The Very Best To You!

May you and those you love and care for experience a meaningful remainder of this day,

Lee

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On Asking Forgiveness As A Parent

 On Asking Forgiveness
As A Parent...

Asking forgiveness as a parent
means accepting the reality of failure
while affirming the value of transparency
© Lee Wise

First Thoughts...

Realizing wrong -- i.e. something truly said or done wrong that could hurt others, put a dent in the legacy you are trying to leave, or simply reflect a momentary failure of wisdom or character -- doesn't come easy: at least to this dad. 

It may be far from easy but it is not far from necessary.  However, words like: "I was wrong, will you forgive me?" can...

• Free the conscience.
• Tell the child that you care enough to correct what's done wrong on your end.
• Begin to reestablish a broken relationship.
• Reflect you love to the child -- a love strong enough to admit wrong and filled with commitment enough to seek to make things right when all is not right because of what I've done, or failed to do, as a father.

[One caution, however: asking too many times for too many repeated failures can come across of being too superficial (at least in my opinion). While it may be true, it may also reflect the need to get some help if needed.]

Reflecting. Responding. 

• What has been my experience with asking forgiveness relative to my children? Do I have insights that could help others in that area of parenting? Should I record those and share them in any way?
• As I am reviewing my own thoughts on the subject of forgiveness, what's the heart saying? 
• Have I blown it by asking forgiveness in a wrong way? For instance, by adding 3 other things to why the child "caused" me to respond that way ... and letting them how much they have failed in the process?  In my mind that's called: (1) self-justification; and/or (2) being too harsh and less sensitive than needed. 

All The Best To You!

All the best to you and those you love,

Lee

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Listen To Your Daughter When Life Treats Her Well

 Listen When...

Life Treats Her Well!

"Listen when life treats her well. 

Share the joys, freakish highs, 

and every level of joyful emotion in between."

Expanding on the article I posted earlier, here are several additional comments for your consideration.

A Simple Rule Of Thumb

There's a simple rule of thumb here: delight in her delights.

Shared delight = multiplied moments of...

• Potential interaction, 
• Bridge building 
• And the on-going cultivation of mutual respect.

I believe this happens *because as dads we choose to make it happen.*

At 45 I may not relate to a momentary high of a fifteen year old being we termed entirely in a right frame of mind relative to the species we term human!

• Age gaps do exist. 
• Understanding gaps exist. 
• And gaps of relating exist.

But it does not matter: it doesn't!

I can choose to capture the joy she reflects at the moment, delight in it myself solely because it is her delight, and make it an immediate personal treasure because:

1. I value my daughter.
2. I value the bond that shared joy creates.

I hope you got that! Because...

• I value my daughter.
• I value the bond created by shared joy.

Things can become a joy by choice, and the choices we make in this area of our lives, dads, are crucial. 


Do It!

Yes, this too takes time: do it!
Yes, it can be done: do it!

It's all about...

• Love. 
• Acceptance. 
• Approval.
• And the light in our eyes that creates the light in her eyes. 

May you and those you delight in have a wonderful life,

Lee

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Listen To Your Daughter When The Guy's Been A Jerk

 "Listen When

The Guy's Been A Jerk"

"Listen when the guy's been a jerk,
and don't jerk her bruised emotional chain
while she's down. 

Care, 

listen, 

and care yet more."

As I continue to make comments on my previous article (Daughters, Dads and Listening), here are today's brief reflections on the point referred to above:

• You notice the emphasis on care and I personally can't emphasize this enough.
• As she grows older and matures this never -- ever -- changes.
• You will hurt as a dad listening during this process: but keep on listening.

Two words you will need to comprehend (at least in this dad's opinion) are...
listen and release.

Listen.

Allow words and feelings to flow at will.
Reflect caring and concern any way possible.

Control anger if the guy's really been a jerk.

• Share insights and advice if and when appropriate.
• Don't damage already damaged emotions.
• Reinforce love and acceptance every step of the way.

Operate as a team with your wife if married.

• "Bring each other in" on the everything as teammates in the healing process, 
• And keep demonstrating love to your wife through it all.

Pray like crazy throughout the emotionally battle scarred journey.

Release

And "release" your daughter to God and herself so she...

• Reflects, 
• Emotes, 
• And makes her own choices.

Then...

Be ready to repeat the process again.
My guess is you will need to.

All the best to you, dad.  All the best.


Lee

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Lee is a Writer an Online Marketer and Life Coach. With a passion for on purpose living and making a positive impact in the world, he seeks to encourage people in their personal and professional lives. See his Inspirational Handbook for Attraction Marketers here http://attractionmarketinghandbook.com

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What My Dad Did Right... A Neat Example

Building Family Traditions

"What My Dad Did Right...A Neat Example"

This post from Playground Dad was made by Kathryn Peck (Twitter@EASActiveGirl) and the title of the post was (click on the link to see entire post):

What My Dad Did Right – Family Traditions

Several comments in the post caught my attention.

“Most week nights were too busy with activities for all of us to sit down together, so my parents made sure that Sunday nights were reserved for the family.”

“None of us kids live at home anymore, but for those of us who live in the same city, we tend to make our way to my parents house on every Sunday. It just feels right”

Now Those Have To Be “Dad Proud” Statements! 

• Great memories.
• Children choosing on their own to come home each week.
• And writing about it on a blog!  

And My "Dad Thoughts" That Came To Mind Were...

• Consistency.
• Strong family environment.
• Hospitality (you will see that from the post if you read it, and I sure hope you do!)
• How healthy family legacies are built.

Any Takeways?  

Got any takeaways of your own... even from this short post? 


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Lee is a writer an online marketer and coach. With a passion for on purpose living and making a positive impact in the world, he seeks to encourage people in their personal and professional lives. See his Inspirational Handbook for Attraction Marketers here http://attractionmarketinghandbook.com

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Making A Difference For Only Five Bucks...

Making A Difference

For Only Five Bucks… Why Not?

Sometimes a simple thing like sharing an experience and wearing a bracelet can be meaningful in a parent/child relationship.  Like the other day when my son-in-law came in with his bracelet on and explained how his daughter was excited to see him wear "his."  

For that dad, as well as myself, it began while sitting in church.  

While Sitting In Church…


After spending a typically enjoyable morning in church and listening to a great message, my older than it used to be body calculated that it could be about time to exit the area, but the pastor sharing with us the message decided to share something else…


A Video


During the process of explaining how a team of from our church returned to Karogoto, Kenya to help out in an effort there to be a blessing to others, he…

• Shared the video
• Gave an explanation of what was going on there.
• In the process raised his hand and told about a bracelet he had — and that we could wear as well.
• And if any of us felt comfortable in sharing only five dollars to make a difference in the lives of others in Kenya, we could do that by giving…

Only Five Bucks.  Just Once.


Now here’s one of the neat parts: if you gave your five dollars, you received a bracelet with a child’s name of it from Kenya that was personally written by a child there.
And…


You signed your name to a bracelet and they would then be worn by children there as well as kind of a “bridge” between the folks there and those that had given from around the world.
(Side Note: It is my understanding that the exchanging of bracelets is not available through online donations)


You Can See It Here…

Okay, click here to see what I’m talking about –> ThinkBigStuf

Everything is explained much better than me trying to share it with you. Please take time to watch the short, inspiring video. But my point is...

“We Can Strive To Make A Difference While Striving To Make A Living”

• No, I am not saying we have to do it at this location.
• And this is not some type of poorly crafted guilt trip to say we must give.

But what I am saying is that as I saw that, and as I am wearing my yellow bracelet thinking about what transpired in church, I am saying…


Maybe my sharing here might find someone else who says…

• “Yep, that’s me.”
• “My heart is there.”
• “I could do that.”
• “I think I just will!”

Or your responses might following this line of thinking:

• “That gives me another idea.”
• “Maybe I could…”
• And you are off making a difference in your own unique manner in your own unique place…
• While influencing others to do the same.

No Pressure.  Just A Thought.

That’s it.  My small contribution to making a difference as of today’s date.

Maybe yours will take the form of a compliment given, a resource shared, a helping hand to someone who needs some marketing help, a child who needs attention, a spouse who needs encouragement, or someone else who needs to hear “the hard things said” in order to move forward in life.

Or…

You enjoyed the thoughts and feel in your heart: “Nice thoughts, but I’m on my own journey today and it does not include the whole ‘making a difference’ idea.  At least not today, at this time or in this place.”  And that is how I would want you to feel: content and rejoicing at the heart level during this stage of your life.

Either way: fine!

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Lee is a writer an online marketer and coach. With a passion for on purpose living and making a positive impact in the world, he seeks to encourage people in their personal and professional lives. See his Inspirational Handbook for Attraction Marketers here http://attractionmarketinghandbook.com

Interesting in exploring the possibility of working with Lee as a coach?  Go here to check out his FREE 15 minute session and learn more. http://marketingmerge.com/coaching